Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Couples Banquet

I've written a number of times (here's one, here's another one, and there are more, I'm sure) about how the frum community tends to see their young women only as important if they're married. I got another reminder of this sweet attitude today in the mail. 

It came in the form of an invitation to a banquet that the high school that I graduated from is making. 

My first thought was, "What the heck? Why am I being invited to their banquet? I've never been invited before."

My second thought was, "Oh, because they're honoring (former classmate of mine)... I should really go."

My third thought was, "Wait a second... The only price they have here is for couples." 

My thoughts went kablooie from there. 

To have an attitude of, "We don't take singles too seriously," is bad enough. To have it written out officially for everyone to see on an invitation... That's wrong. 

You would think that they would write a price for people attending on their own because it's a fundraiser and they'll take money from whoever they can get it from, yet somehow they can't conceive of a person being capable of attending an event without a significant other.

It's just as well, I suppose. If I attended by myself I'd probably be miserable, my head aching from all the, "Oy, poor thing, she's still single" looks pointed in my direction. 


  1. how about a phonecall I got from my seminary "alumni association"

    "we are updating our files and we just wanted to know what your married name is...."

  2. Yeah, I just got a few of those from the schools I graduated from. Bloody obnoxious, though I don't suppose I can blame them considering it's our societal norm to be married by 20.