Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Who am I?

I'm "me," and it's hard to describe myself. You try to do it. Right now. See? Not so easy.

I am a frum (Orthodox Jewish) female, that much I can say. Whether I'm a frum feminist remains to be seen. Being a feminist in my World could be pretty detrimental to one's reputation, and reputation means a heck of a lot in this community.

The reason why being a feminist could be detrimental to your reputation is because in the Orthodox Jewish world, the ultimate life for a woman is to marry, have children, and establish a good home.

There's a part of me that understands that and knows that philosophically, being a wife and mother is one of the most difficult jobs in the world and that it's a position that really should be a lot more respected than it is.

Then there's the part of me that says, "Well, that's all nice and good but I want more than that." That's the, "feminist" part of me, I guess. The part that I feel like I have to hide away from members of the community because they'd be horrified to hear me say such a thing.

It's getting late so I'm going to rap this up.

-Frum Feminist (?)


  1. i think after reading most of your posts, you are frum. you understand what it means to follow halachah, and to want something for yourself outside of yourself, just makes you open minded not feminist. to want to be treated as an equal is human not feminist. call it what you want , but you are just normal

  2. So I'm frum but not feminist? Just an open-minded frum Jew?

    I suppose that depends how you define "feminist". I'm definitely not a rabid feminist, but aren't a good number of my opinions pretty feminist?

    Thanks for your post!

  3. depends who you ask. it would be classified by those who don't know anything about the torah as feminist, but to me, i'm a black-hatter and i dont disagree with much that you say (except to conservative bit)