Woman #1: "Everyone should go to therapy in order to get to know who they are as a person before they get married."
Woman #2: "You get to know yourself in marriage. You grow up together."
Woman #1: "Well, there are going to be a lot of stumbling blocks along the way if you choose to do it that way."
This is a common discussion in the frum world because people get married at such young ages and with so few real-life experiences that it's nearly impossible for them to already know who they are as people. The answer nearly-always given is the one of Woman #2 above: That young couples grow up together and get to know themselves through their joined experiences.
I'm going to refrain from criticizing at this point and just ask readers:
What do you think? Is this a good or a bad way to grow up?