I thought that it was only in the frum world that girls' only path of success was through her "man." Apparently not.
"Like it or not, it happens all the time. [...] A man's identity is complete through action, a woman's when she has a man."
I used to joke that I would marry a rabbi and *POOF* instantly get smicha (Rabbinical ordination) by become a Rebbitzen.
I used to talk about going to graduate school without actually making any plans to because I knew might have a husband and family by the time I reached grad school, in which case I probably wouldn't do it.
Frum girls are taught that their success and happiness will be attained through their husband's success. That they will be fulfilled by caring for their husband and children.
I think that that's a dangerous mindset to head into the frum dating scene with. I think that it's important for girls in the frum world to know that:
"Love can come when you're already who you are, when you are filled with you. Not when you look to someone else to fill the empty space."
(Ignore the cover. It's a National Book Award finalist and a brilliant book.)
