tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post7175445265274229485..comments2023-10-15T08:19:28.285-07:00Comments on Am I a Frum Feminist?: Bad News is EverywhereAmIaFrumFeministhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09336007889420058137noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post-22069067484398937602009-08-31T19:34:46.132-07:002009-08-31T19:34:46.132-07:00Anonymous,
You won't agree with me because y...Anonymous, <br /><br />You won't agree with me because you aren't objective enough to see it, but you sound very much like the young people I was referring to in this post. Extremely naive and unaware of the benefits of learning self-awareness before being thrown out into the world. <br /><br />You think that, "Marriage matures you up pretty quick," and that that makes it okay for a 19 year old to get married so young? Are you kidding me? That's like saying we should throw 9 year olds into boot camp because it'll make them grow up faster: it just might work, but it also might be abusive. <br /><br />You don't use marriage to "mature a person up." That's just cruel. <br /><br />And, yes, a miscarriage or a divorce will shake up anyone, regardless of age, but why the heck would you want to make a person barely out of high school suffer something like that when they're just starting their life? So many divorces could have been prevented if one of the couple had the life experience necessary to see the "red flags" that 19 year olds easily miss because of the sheltered lives they've lived in the frum community.AmIaFrumFeministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09336007889420058137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post-6376716842073811932009-08-27T20:36:45.445-07:002009-08-27T20:36:45.445-07:00I 100% disagree with this post. Young marriages ar...I 100% disagree with this post. Young marriages are not the problem, the people are the problem. A girl who isn't ready to get married at 19 isn't being forced by anyone. It is society who is putting pressure on her, yes, but if that is expected of her, she should make the effort to be ready for it. And most people are. There are people who are ready to get married at 19, and there are people who are only ready at 25. While 19 is young, it's not a baby. Marriage matures you up pretty quick.<br /><br />And a miscarriage and early divorce, while both awful situations, might not have been better handled by a girl a couple years older, even, if she was newly married. A newly married girl is a newly married girl, and everyone needs time to adjust to new changes in their lives. They would have been hardships had the girl been 25.<br /><br />Hey, I got married when I was 20. I had friends get married at 18, some now that we're 23. And while the 23 year olds are arguable "more mature" than I was when I got married, something like a miscarriage and divorce would shake them up just as much as it would have shaken me up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post-45925327436945903562009-03-27T03:37:00.000-07:002009-03-27T03:37:00.000-07:00by sheltered do you mean sheltered from the outsid...by sheltered do you mean sheltered from the outside world, or sheltered from having to deal with any form of hardship and responsibility?<BR/><BR/>kisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post-36647820049312712562009-03-25T19:53:00.000-07:002009-03-25T19:53:00.000-07:00amen sister, amenamen sister, amenharry-er than them allhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07957506180776134351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post-64147024442762782902009-03-23T10:26:00.000-07:002009-03-23T10:26:00.000-07:00Just for clarity's sake, I was Amen to your post, ...Just for clarity's sake, I was Amen to your post, not to Kisarita's comment. When I said, "Amen", her comment wasn't displayed yet!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post-61915555203875583012009-03-22T23:03:00.000-07:002009-03-22T23:03:00.000-07:00Kisarita - I'm speaking, specifically, about young...Kisarita - <BR/><BR/>I'm speaking, specifically, about young people in the frum world who have been sheltered from the real world all their life.AmIaFrumFeministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09336007889420058137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post-75098846750468161002009-03-22T19:38:00.000-07:002009-03-22T19:38:00.000-07:00Amen...Amen...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3039321608208914582.post-4031919838125134242009-03-21T23:26:00.000-07:002009-03-21T23:26:00.000-07:00I do not agree that young people, by definition ar...I do not agree that young people, by definition are unready for real life. <BR/><BR/>In fact, I think the extended childhood promoted by our society is not very natural at all.kisaritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18181012456635737873noreply@blogger.com